Has Anyone Had This Experience?
A virus passed through my family like bees on honey!!! My oldest son was TERRIFIED...He had no idea what was wrong. He knew he felt awful and could not understand what was happening to him. I tried to soothe him, comfort him, hold him, basically ANYTHING I could to help him get through this AWFUL experience.
I was up working on the computer Late Thursday night into Friday morning, when my husband ran for the bathroom. He began getting sick. Once he was done, I went in to the bedroom with him and began rubbing his back. I told him I was going to go to the bathroom and shut down the computer when my oldest son began crying for me.... I went into his room expecting to put him back to bed, as he tends to wake up once in awhile and just want to be tucked in. He began to get sick. He tried to hold it back, but there was no stopping it. My poor baby started to cry. I grabbed him, hugged him to me, and ran to the bathroom. I sat in the bath tub and just held him, telling him he was okay, Mommy was here. Just let it out. You'll feel better soon. THEN, my husband was back up getting sick. I called 911, not because I was a panicky individual Terrified it was the Swine Flu, I just knew something was wrong. I told the operator what was happening and what symptoms I was having. I hadn't even thought of myself until he asked. I was feeling nausea all day and I had a terrible headache. I just chalked it up to my wonderful Monthly friend that just finished visiting. I was told to take everyone out of the house in case it was Carbon Monoxide. I ran to the front door and back door, throw open both, I bundled up my infant, wrapped my two toddlers up in blankets, had my husband by the door, and when we went to get out of the house when the paramedics came up and began getting us out of the house. They tested all the apartments to make sure it was not Carbon Monoxide and it came back negative. They transported my husband and my children to the hospital. My husband and my oldest son continued to get sick waiting for the okay and on the way to the hospital. I was to follow up in our car as I was okay enough to drive. We needed to get home afterward. I was told to bring clothes and what the children needed. I was so nervous, I left the ambulance, headed for the apartment then forgetting what I was suppose to do, I ran down to our car. It took me a bit to get out of our parking lot. I headed up to the hospital. I didn't realize I was speeding until I caught up to the Ambulance....I just kept singing the song that comforted my son. The alphabet song from Super Why. It calmed me down. I fought of the nausea, focused on my family. We all checked out okay and were able to go home at noon Friday. I was given some medication to help with my headache and nauseau which knocked me out. My husband drove us all home.
We spent the WHOLE weekend resting and I was in charge of running the boys into the bathroom each time they got sick. My poor husband has a very weak stomach! I took them into the bathroom and shut the door. When they were all set, I would start the bath water. It seemed to be the only way to calm them down. They LOVE to play in the water. Filling up the cup with water and dumping it. I called my husband in once they were calm and I was sure there would be no mishaps while he was with them. Then the men would hang out together while Mommy cleaned any messes in the other room.
I too became sick, I was lucky it was only one time. I think I had to clear out my system and fast because I needed to take care of ALL my men!!! It's funny how woman are able to do what needs to be done once it affects our family!!! Once I was sure the boys were all set, I took my medicine and tried to get some rest. I would wake up from a dead sleep regardless if it was a drug induced sleep, and ran to get my child that was sick. I could not believe I could move that fast with a pounding headache and an achy body!!! I didn't even realize how bad I felt until after my child was cleaned, bed changed, tucked in, and had their back rubbed until they fell asleep. Once I got to lay down, it would hit me. All I can say is Thank God I have the Mommy instinct!!! It really helped our family get through this virus.
Believe it or not, my oldest child did not receive his first cold until he was 13 months old and this was the very first stomach virus to run through our family like this. My second child has not been so lucky. He was about 6 months when he got his first cold. My infant received his first cold when he was 4 months old. I know, I know, you are going to say that is what happens when you have older children. It still does not comfort me knowing my babies are sick. I worry so much and this just makes it worse. I don't want my babies to ever experience pain, sickness, or anything negative.....Parenthood is going to be tough on me because of this.
I will tell you some time later what I'd love to tell you right now, but I really do not want to jinx anyone. Especially, since my middle child still had a bellyache just recently. Once it's been a FULL week with no episodes, THEN and only then will I say what I've been wanting to say....actually, maybe I'll wait awhole month......Nah, I'll just never say it!!!! I'm very superstitious you know!!! Let's keep it at that and I'll just end this blog for now.
Please, share some of your experiences with me. I want to know what happens next, how you've dealt with such situations, and gain tips or advice to better help my family in the future....I'm begging you, Please leave a comment!!! Thank you!
Sincerely,
Kristie Pomposelli
Virtual Assistant
Hard Working Mom
HardWorkingMomE@gmail.com
Sunday, May 10, 2009
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Are Homemaker's Capable Of Working?
Are Homemaker's Capable Of Working?
You are venturing out into the work force, researching the available jobs, hitting the pavement, and filling out those applications. The interviews follow with the same tedious questions that make you wonder, 'just how difficult do they think their job is? Have they EVER raised children?' Yes, the interview will contain the same mundane questions that have you laughing inwardly. Are you able to multi-task? How are you under pressure? Are you Bilingual? Do you handle confrontations well? How would you rate your negotiation skills? How would you handle angry clients?
Are you able to multi-task, why yes, I am able to multi-task....On a given hour, I can have a load of laundry started, children feed, washed, diaper change, dressed, read to until asleep then proceeding to feed a third child while answering emails.
How are you under pressure? Maybe they should start wording this as stress instead of pressure. The inevitable situations when you have JUST gotten the children washed, dressed and turn for one second and they are half naked, playing in ketchup and you have only two minutes to spare before they need to get on the school bus. Panic, HA I laugh at the word....Oh no, there is no such word...I prefer to think this question should actually be, 'How are you at adjusting to change?' Quickly a plan evolves in your head and is executed within seconds. New clothes in hand children under the arms, marathon run to the car, strapped in, back out of driveway BEFORE the school bus can even flash it's caution lights, drive to the school, redress the children, straighten out hair, and calmly walk into the school just as the bus approaches.....Ah, now that is what I call adjustment and determination!!!
Are you Bilingual? Well, let's put it this way, anyone who can have a conversation with an infant and two toddlers throughout a day and be able to hold an adult conversation should be considered Bilingual. That's is switching from one language, baby google, half spoken English language of the 3 year old and the 2 year old one word conversations. Then moving on to the world news, politics, and how your day went. Occasionally, those bilingual languages pop in and out of a conversation, so you must be able to hold three to four conversations at one time. Shouldn't this be considered a skill???
Do you handle confrontations well? Let's see...I have been able to successfully distract the angry screams of a toddler that just has to have that chocolate bunny so conveniently placed at his level right before lunch. How you may ask? Yelling back? Ignoring this behavior? Laughing the problem away? Oh yeah you can see just as well as I can how well these options would pan out. Just for kicks, let’s see what it would look like shall we? Yelling back, now that's classic. How would you look yelling at a three year old that just does not understand WHY he can't have what he wants? Are you going to yell at that employee to move out of your spot? Would you keep yelling and yelling till one just gives up. Of course not, how silly. Ignoring this behavior, yeah, that will really make it go away. It could even escalate to a tantrum on the floor. It will always come back and continue to bring you that anxiety JUST knowing it will happen again and it's only a matter of time. Laughing the problem away, hmm not too good as well. I'm sure the patrons at the store and the staff would think 'Boy this lady is crazy and the child is a brat!!' Laughing it off only instigates the situation and let's them know you are not to be taken seriously and you don't take them seriously. Once again this will to re-occur until you can actually take care of the problem appropriately. The best thing to do, take the child aside, maybe to the car, wait for the situation and each other have settled down, then explain to the child how they can not act that way. NEVER would you want to hurt your child or encourage this behavior, You begin to handle these situations coming in knowing what will happen, how you can avoid the problem and if you can't make that negotiation that will appease both sides.
How would you handle angry clients? I would handle them the same way as I would negotiate with them. Take a second to step back, assess the situation and keep an open mind upon hearing each side. Every situation can be handled in a calm, respectable manner. No one needs to walk away from a situation feeling as if nothing was accomplished or the problem was never fixed. Treat everyone with respect and you will be respected. This is a skill learned by parents and used all to well.Ah, interview over, hand shake given, with the promise of a call back. You realize it went well and are positive you will get the job. There is no way you are not qualified for this job. In fact, you may be OVER qualified for the job. If only he could see that this job is nothing compared to being a Homemaker.
Lion Tamer, you try telling me I can't do it!!!!
Kristie Pomposelli
Virtual Assistant
Hard Working Mom
HardWorkingMomE@gmail.com
http://www.HardWorkingMom.org
You are venturing out into the work force, researching the available jobs, hitting the pavement, and filling out those applications. The interviews follow with the same tedious questions that make you wonder, 'just how difficult do they think their job is? Have they EVER raised children?' Yes, the interview will contain the same mundane questions that have you laughing inwardly. Are you able to multi-task? How are you under pressure? Are you Bilingual? Do you handle confrontations well? How would you rate your negotiation skills? How would you handle angry clients?
Are you able to multi-task, why yes, I am able to multi-task....On a given hour, I can have a load of laundry started, children feed, washed, diaper change, dressed, read to until asleep then proceeding to feed a third child while answering emails.
How are you under pressure? Maybe they should start wording this as stress instead of pressure. The inevitable situations when you have JUST gotten the children washed, dressed and turn for one second and they are half naked, playing in ketchup and you have only two minutes to spare before they need to get on the school bus. Panic, HA I laugh at the word....Oh no, there is no such word...I prefer to think this question should actually be, 'How are you at adjusting to change?' Quickly a plan evolves in your head and is executed within seconds. New clothes in hand children under the arms, marathon run to the car, strapped in, back out of driveway BEFORE the school bus can even flash it's caution lights, drive to the school, redress the children, straighten out hair, and calmly walk into the school just as the bus approaches.....Ah, now that is what I call adjustment and determination!!!
Are you Bilingual? Well, let's put it this way, anyone who can have a conversation with an infant and two toddlers throughout a day and be able to hold an adult conversation should be considered Bilingual. That's is switching from one language, baby google, half spoken English language of the 3 year old and the 2 year old one word conversations. Then moving on to the world news, politics, and how your day went. Occasionally, those bilingual languages pop in and out of a conversation, so you must be able to hold three to four conversations at one time. Shouldn't this be considered a skill???
Do you handle confrontations well? Let's see...I have been able to successfully distract the angry screams of a toddler that just has to have that chocolate bunny so conveniently placed at his level right before lunch. How you may ask? Yelling back? Ignoring this behavior? Laughing the problem away? Oh yeah you can see just as well as I can how well these options would pan out. Just for kicks, let’s see what it would look like shall we? Yelling back, now that's classic. How would you look yelling at a three year old that just does not understand WHY he can't have what he wants? Are you going to yell at that employee to move out of your spot? Would you keep yelling and yelling till one just gives up. Of course not, how silly. Ignoring this behavior, yeah, that will really make it go away. It could even escalate to a tantrum on the floor. It will always come back and continue to bring you that anxiety JUST knowing it will happen again and it's only a matter of time. Laughing the problem away, hmm not too good as well. I'm sure the patrons at the store and the staff would think 'Boy this lady is crazy and the child is a brat!!' Laughing it off only instigates the situation and let's them know you are not to be taken seriously and you don't take them seriously. Once again this will to re-occur until you can actually take care of the problem appropriately. The best thing to do, take the child aside, maybe to the car, wait for the situation and each other have settled down, then explain to the child how they can not act that way. NEVER would you want to hurt your child or encourage this behavior, You begin to handle these situations coming in knowing what will happen, how you can avoid the problem and if you can't make that negotiation that will appease both sides.
How would you handle angry clients? I would handle them the same way as I would negotiate with them. Take a second to step back, assess the situation and keep an open mind upon hearing each side. Every situation can be handled in a calm, respectable manner. No one needs to walk away from a situation feeling as if nothing was accomplished or the problem was never fixed. Treat everyone with respect and you will be respected. This is a skill learned by parents and used all to well.Ah, interview over, hand shake given, with the promise of a call back. You realize it went well and are positive you will get the job. There is no way you are not qualified for this job. In fact, you may be OVER qualified for the job. If only he could see that this job is nothing compared to being a Homemaker.
Lion Tamer, you try telling me I can't do it!!!!
Kristie Pomposelli
Virtual Assistant
Hard Working Mom
HardWorkingMomE@gmail.com
http://www.HardWorkingMom.org
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